What is Sexual Healing?
Sexual healing—maybe it sounds like a Marvin Gaye song, maybe it feels a bit cringy for you, or maybe something mystical and out of reach.
But in reality, it’s much more grounded and accessible than you might think.
Sexual healing is about reclaiming your relationship with your body, your pleasure, and your sense of joy.
Let’s dive into what that means, one little bit at a time.
Collective Sexual Trauma:
The Baggage We Didn’t Know We Were Carrying
Let’s start with the big stuff—collective sexual trauma.
Sounds heavy, right? But stay with me!
This is about understanding that we’re all in this together.
Collective sexual trauma refers to the ways society has shaped our views on sex and bodies, often in negative ways.
It’s the stuff we’ve absorbed from culture, media, and even family traditions that tell us what’s "normal" or "acceptable."
The good news? Recognizing this is the first step toward letting it go.
We can shake off these outdated beliefs and start embracing a healthier, happier view of sexuality.
“Collective healing is the process of remembering that we belong to each other, that our liberation is bound together, and that healing is both personal and collective work that transforms our world.”
If you are looking for a way to clear collective sexual trauma, take a look at my blog: Ritual for Releasing Collective Sexual Trauma.
Acute Sexual Trauma: Navigating Personal Challenges
Now, onto something that might feel a little more challenging—acute sexual trauma.
What I mean by this are those individual experiences that have impacted how we feel about sex and our bodies, no matter how “big” or “small” they may seem to others. They are those times where your no wasn’t fully listened to, when you were too young to advocate for yourself, and when someone took power over you.
Remember, healing is not about erasing the past but about reclaiming your present and future. There’s no rush, and there’s no "right" way to do this—just your way.
If you are looking for the perfect way to heal acute sexual trauma, take a look at our gentle and comprehensive quiz: What Season of Sexual Healing Are You In?
It’s really difficult to know where to start on the road to sexual healing, give me a few of minutes and I’ll help guide you into a gentle new beginning.
How You Understand Your Body and Your Pleasure:
The Fun Part
Understanding your body and your pleasure is where things get really exciting.
This is the part of sexual healing where you get to explore, discover, and maybe even surprise yourself.
It’s about tuning into what feels good for you—not what you’ve been told should feel good.
The best part? This is a journey of self-discovery with no wrong turns.
Whether it’s through self-care, experimentation, or just taking the time to listen to your body, this is your adventure, and it’s all about finding what lights you up.
Find inspiration in your journey of sexual healing can really depend on where you are in your evolution of healing right now. Taking a deep dive into the season of healing you are organically inhabiting can give you a good place to start in finding exactly what feels great to you right now, what really and truly feels pleasurable, and what turns your maybe into a ‘HELL YES’. For example,
Quiz: What Season of Sexual Healing Are You In?
Summers may benefit more from group activities, parties, workshops, and outward self expression.
Falls are going to naturally look more towards preparing themselves for what they will deeply let go of in winter. They are naturally going to shed things, and start making a plan for their sexual healing hibernation so they can look much more deeply inward.
Winters are nourished by quiet space, ample time for self reflection, and a deep dive into their sexual roots.
Springs likely are playfully looking for outlets for their new budding energy, having finally blossomed from the roots through the earth, and finally to the sun from the work done in winter.
If you’d like to find out what season you are, and get a little guidance are what kinds of things you may looooove doing for yourself and your eroticism right now, take our free quiz What Season of Sexual Healing Are You In?
Your Access to Joy: Reclaiming the Spark
Sexual healing isn’t just about what happens in the bedroom.
It’s about feeling passionate about all aspects of your life.
When you start healing sexually, you might notice that your passion for other things—hobbies, work, relationships—starts to grow too.
That’s because sexual energy is creative energy. As you heal, you unlock more of that energy, and suddenly, everything feels more vibrant.
Joy! —>
It’s that spark, that feeling of being fully alive.
And yes, it’s a huge part of sexual healing.
Access to joy isn’t just about the big moments—it’s about the little ones too.
It’s about feeling good in your skin, laughing out loud, and letting yourself feel pleasure without guilt or shame.
Joy is your birthright, and sexual healing is about making sure you can tap into that joy whenever you need it.
So go ahead, dance around your living room, eat that extra slice of cake, or take a long bath—whatever brings you joy is an essential part of your healing journey.
Wrapping It Up & Taking a Step forwards
Sexual healing is a journey—a fun, sometimes challenging, but always rewarding journey. It’s about shaking off old baggage, rediscovering what makes you feel good, and embracing joy and passion in every part of your life. So, what’s your next step? Maybe it’s exploring something new, maybe it’s connecting with others on this path, or maybe it’s just letting yourself be, exactly as you are, right now. Whatever it is, remember—sexual healing is for you, and it’s here to help you shine.
Take our free (!!) quiz to take a gentle step into your sexual healing journey... What Season of Sexual Healing Are You In?
