Sexological Bodyworker's Favorite Sex-Positive Shows—Grace and Frankie & Celebrating Sexuality in the "Second Spring"
This blog contains light spoilers for Grace and Frankie but avoids revealing key plot points. The focus is on the themes of sexual empowerment and vitality, so feel free to read without worry!
If you haven't seen Grace and Frankie, what the HELL are you waiting for?
This hilarious, heartwarming show isn't just about two women navigating life after their husbands leave them for each other—it’s also a celebration of sexual empowerment in later life.
One of the best parts of the show?
The unapologetic, sex-positive energy the two main characters, Grace and Frankie, bring, especially when it comes to women over 50 (and beyond).
From creating vibrators for older women to tossing around the idea of easy-open condoms (because, let’s be real, hand dexterity isn’t what it used to be), Grace and Frankie dares to go where few TV shows do—by normalizing the sexual desires and experiences of women post-menopause. And it’s about time!
But beyond the laughs and witty banter, the show taps into something deeper: the idea that menopause isn’t the end of sexual vitality—it’s the beginning of a new chapter. In traditional Chinese medicine, this phase of life is known as the Second Spring, and it’s about so much more than hot flashes and hormone replacement therapy.
Let’s explore how Grace and Frankie beautifully embody this concept and how we, as women, can embrace it.
What is the "Second Spring"?
In traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), menopause is often referred to as the "Second Spring."
While Western perspectives often focus on menopause as a time of decline, TCM offers a different take—seeing it as a time of rebirth, where women become more discerning about their desires, including their sexual desires.
During this phase, women are believed to enter a new kind of sexual peak—one that's not driven by reproductive urges but by a deeper connection to their bodies, pleasure, and desires. It's a time to embrace who we are without societal pressures and to enjoy sex on our own terms. And doesn’t that sound a lot like Grace and Frankie’s later-in-life sexual exploration?
Spring is often associated with the maiden years—our "first peak" of sexual energy—but in the Second Spring, we have the experience, wisdom, and confidence to explore sexuality with greater awareness. The best part? It’s not about what we’re "supposed" to do, but what we want.
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Grace and Frankie: Owning Sexuality in the Second Spring
One of the best things about Grace and Frankie is how it shows older women owning their sexuality.
Grace (played by Jane Fonda) and Frankie (played by Lily Tomlin) take matters into their own hands (literally, sometimes!) to explore their desires and support other women in doing the same.
Vibrators for Older Women: One of the standout storylines is when they create a line of vibrators designed specifically for older women—because the traditional market wasn’t cutting it. A vibrator that caters to women’s changing needs? Yes, please! They break down taboos around pleasure for women past a certain age and, in doing so, challenge the narrative that older women’s desires fade.
Easy-Open Condoms: The show even touches on the practicalities of sex in later life with their playful idea for easy-open condoms. It’s lighthearted but significant, reminding us that sexual needs change—and that’s okay.
Horny at Any Age: In the later seasons, Grace and Frankie don’t shy away from discussing how horny they are, even in their 70s and 80s. It’s refreshing and empowering, because it shows that sexual desire doesn’t have an expiration date.
Herbs & Self-Pleasure Practices to Embrace Your "Grace and Frankie" Energy
If you’re ready to embrace your own Second Spring and channel your inner Grace or Frankie, here are some recommendations to help you fully own your pleasure:
Herbs for Vitality & Sexual Energy
Certain herbs are known in traditional Chinese medicine and Western herbalism to boost vitality and support sexual energy in later life. Try incorporating these into your routine:
Dong Quai: Often called the "female ginseng," this herb helps support hormonal balance and blood flow, which can boost libido and energy.
Maca Root: A great addition to smoothies or tea, maca is known for enhancing stamina, mood, and sexual function.
Tribulus: Used to enhance libido and improve sexual function, this herb is perfect for anyone wanting to feel more connected to their sexual energy.
Self-Pleasure Practices
Frankie wouldn’t wait for someone else to light her fire, and neither should you! Here are some self-pleasure practices to help you connect with your desires:
Self-Massage with a Yoni Wand: Incorporating a yoni wand into your self-care routine can help you reconnect with your body and pleasure in a mindful, exploratory way. Focus on what feels good and take your time—there’s no rush.
Breathwork & Sensual Movement: Try adding breathwork to your self-pleasure practice. Deep, intentional breathing paired with slow, sensual movement can amplify your experience, making you feel more in tune with your body.
Explore Your Own Vibrators: Just like Grace and Frankie, find a vibrator that works for your body and changing needs. Whether it’s something gentler or designed for deeper sensations, take the time to explore what gives you pleasure.
Your Sexual Awakening Starts Here
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Menopause as a Sexual Awakening
Grace and Frankie teach us that menopause isn’t the end of sexuality—it’s the start of a new chapter. The "Second Spring" gives us the opportunity to enjoy sex in a way that’s more intentional, more discerning, and entirely on our own terms. Whether it’s through vibrators, open conversations, or unapologetically embracing your horniness, this phase of life is full of sexual vitality.
So, why not take a page from Grace and Frankie? Embrace your Second Spring, connect with your desires, and explore pleasure without any of society’s outdated rules.
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Bloopers from this blog
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If you needed any more proof that we live in an ageist society, look no further than my hilarious (and slightly frustrating) attempt to create some pretty and empowering images for this blog with my friend, chatgpt!
Between asking for a mystical, sensual older woman and getting more "youthful lingerie model" than "Grace and Frankie goddess," there were some moments that gave me quite the laugh.
Here are some of the funniest bloopers from my back-and-forth miscommunications in an attempt to create something visually stunning for you all to enjoy (and not cannabis-centric!! chatgpt what happened to you?!!!). Because, hey, even in the digital age, things don’t always go as planned!
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**The images used in this blog are for illustrative purposes only and are not affiliated with or endorsed by Grace and Frankie or its creators. All rights to the characters, names, and media belong to their respective copyright holders.
