The MissingDesireKit
For when you miss wanting sex.
- Desire that shows up on its own
- Sex that doesn't hurt
- Orgasms you can actually feel
- A body that feels like yours
Seven short lessons and three of the exact practices I use with my private clients. Not theory. The actual work. Yours, free.
Yes, send me the free kit Free · Start tonight · For every gender
- sevenshort video lessons
- threeguided practices
- onefree call with me
Something about sex stopped working, and you can't figure out why.
- You used to want sex. Now you don't, and nothing dramatic happened.
- Sex hurts, or you brace for it before anything even starts.
- Orgasm is hard to reach, gone, or so faint it hardly counts.
- Erections or arousal have become something you worry about.
- One of you wants sex more, and it's turned into a fight or a silence.
- Your body changed after a baby, menopause, illness, medication or just time, and it doesn't feel like yours anymore.
- Your doctor said everything looks fine. It doesn't feel fine.
If you nodded at even one of these: nothing is wrong with you. You're not too old, too broken, too much in your head, or too late. Your body is doing exactly what bodies do under the conditions it's been given. That's good news, because conditions can change.
You haven't failed. The help was aimed at the wrong place.
You've probably tried something. Lube. Date nights. Therapy. Pelvic floor exercises. A supplement, a pill, a book. Or just waiting for it to come back on its own.
Sex is usually the first thing a stretched body lets go of, so where the trouble shows up is rarely where it started. When help is aimed at the symptom instead of the source, it works for a little while, or not at all. Then it's easy to decide the problem is you.
That's over a placebo, in its own trials, with a pill taken every single day. In the kit, I explain why a pill can't reach what's actually missing, and what can.
Desire grows when five things are in place.
After years of private sessions with hundreds of people, I've found the same pattern underneath almost every story. When even one of these goes missing, desire, comfort and pleasure start to fade. The kit helps you find which one is yours.
- Feeling at home in your bodySomeone has to be home for pleasure to land.
- Feeling safe enough to softenNothing opens while it's bracing, including you.
- Being touched with nothing expected backTouch that isn't always a request for more.
- Being able to receiveSex as being met, not as a performance.
- Being allowed to changeRoom for your body to be different than it used to be.
Everything I'd tell you in our first few sessions.
First you'll understand what's happening in your body. Then you'll start changing it, gently, at home, on your own terms.
How to open your kit
- Find twenty quiet minutes
- Light a candle, if you like
- Press play on lesson one
Understand your body
Nothing is wrong with you
Finally stop blaming yourself. You'll see why your body makes perfect sense, and feel the relief of knowing it can change.
13 minI want to want sex again
Understand where your desire went, even though you love the person you're with, and start feeling it return on its own instead of on command.
6 minI want sex to stop hurting
Learn why it still hurts when every test is normal, and how your body lets go of bracing so sex can actually feel good.
7 minI want orgasms I can actually feel
Stop chasing orgasm and start feeling more, so pleasure builds instead of slipping away.
7 minI want us to want each other
Step out of the same old fight about sex and get closer, without waiting for your partner to change first.
7 minI want to feel at home in my body again
Make peace with a body that's changed through birth, menopause, illness, medication or time, and feel like yourself in it.
6 minWhere to start
Know exactly which of the five things is missing for you, and leave with your first step for this week.
6 minCome back to your body
Pleasure that finds you on an ordinary day
Your body starts noticing what feels good again, in the shower, in the sun, in a long hug, so desire finally has something to grow from.
Touch you can actually feel
Sensation comes back where things went numb or tense, and pain starts to make sense instead of scaring you.
Knowing exactly what you love
You discover what your body wants when nothing is expected of it, and you can finally ask for it, alone or with a partner.
A free 30-minute call with me
Together we'll find which of the five things is missing for you and map out your first steps, so you leave knowing exactly where to start. Grab a time now, or after any lesson.
Book my free call"I woke up this morning full of so much gratitude. You've truly changed my life. I have referred at least 4 people. Because it works."Former client
Seeing a PT, therapist or doctor?
Every one of them is working toward the same thing you are. When your body finally feels safe, rested and met, all of that work has somewhere to land, and the changes you've been reaching for start to stick.
If you see a pelvic PT
Pelvic PT works on muscles and structure. The kit works on why your body tightens in the first place, so the progress you make in the clinic shows up at home too.
If you're in therapy
Therapy helps you understand your story. The kit helps your body catch up to what you already understand, so insight turns into real change in how sex feels.
If you've tried medication
Medication works on blood flow or brain chemistry. The kit works on feeling safe, rested and met, which is what lets your body actually respond.
What people say about this work.
"Working with Nicole was life changing. Session by session, I became more embodied and playful in my interactions with my sensual self."
"You helped me go from existential dread to relaxed trust in my body, to feel my life's meaning."
"Nicole is a very kind, nonjudgmental, and unique practitioner. You know her heart is in it fully."
Hi, I'm Nicole. I believe the body always makes sense.
I'm a Certified Sexological Bodyworker® and the founder of Body Compass. For more than five years I've worked privately with hundreds of people of every gender, individuals and couples, who came to me after trying everything else.
Most of them had been told their problem was in their head, their hormones or their relationship. What I found, again and again, was a body responding sensibly to what it had been through. When we gave that body what it had been missing, desire, comfort and pleasure came back on their own.
This kit is the clearest, most generous version of that work I know how to give away. I made it for the person I used to be, and for every client who said, "I wish I'd known this years ago."
Before you begin.
Is it really free?
Yes. No card, no trial, nothing to cancel. You enter your email and the kit opens right away.
Is this only for women?
No. The kit is for every gender. The same five things shape desire in every body, and the lessons cover erections, pain, orgasm, desire and body changes in plain, inclusive language.
Do I need a partner?
No. Everything works on your own. If you're partnered, a few lessons and practices have suggestions for sharing them, but only if and when you want to.
I'm nervous about the practices. Will I be pushed?
Never. The lessons are just watching and listening. The practices are private, slow and fully in your control, and you can skip any of them. Many people start with Part One alone, and that's perfect.
How much time does it take?
Each lesson is 6 to 13 minutes, and the practices are about 10 minutes each. You can watch it all in an evening or take a lesson a day.
I'm already seeing a doctor, PT or therapist. Should I still do this?
Yes. The kit works beautifully alongside PT, therapy and medical care, and many people find that work starts landing more deeply. If you have new or sharp pain, check in with your doctor too.
What happens after I sign up?
You get instant access to all ten videos, plus a few emails from me with extra support. If you want help applying it to your situation, you can book a free 30-minute call. Totally optional.
You don't have to keep wondering where your desire went.
Ten short videos. One clear place to start. And the relief of finally knowing your body was never the problem.
Send me the free kit Free · Start tonight · For every gender